Feelings

feeling series
Feelings  Track: What’s its name? Reset: Check for Sneaky Feelings. Do Better: Watch it ride to shore

This chart summarizes how to deal with feelings in 3 steps: 1. Track, 2. Reset & #. Do Better

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Brain Dump what overloading you…

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1.Track

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Name the strong feeling -it might be physical, hard to name or obvious. Locate where they are in your body and rate them out of 10.

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2.Reset

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Check for sneaky emotions hiding under the protective big emotion. They might not be there, but we still have to check.

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3.Do Better

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Don’t get dumped by a big emotional wave, watch it ride to shore from the dunes, …then understand it.

Examples of Feelings

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  • My body feels…
  • I keep thinking of…
  • My head feels like…

Safety first, make the environment safe so you have a chance to manage things differently.

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Name the strong feeling -it might be physical, hard to name or obvious.

  • Angry?
  • Sad?
  • Lonley?
  • Ashamed
  • Rejected?
  • Abandoned?
  • Other?

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Check for sneaky emotions hiding under the protective big emotion.

  • Sad under Angry
  • Angry under Sad
  • Ashamed or Guilty under Angry
  • Disappointed under Angry
  • Frightened under Numb
  • Sad under Numb

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Don’t get dumped by a big emotional wave, watch it ride to shore from the dunes, …then understand it.

  • Notice the power of the emotion as it passes through you.
  • Don’t get tangled up in the thinking…
  • Be curious about “what” and “why now..?”
  • (Not reacting to the emotion will feel really weird…)
  • Grow Taller, manage Stress, set a Path to better.